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You've heard the saying "experience is the best teacher", right?

The great Roman leader Julius Caesar recorded the earliest known version of this proverb, "Experience is the teacher of all things." around 52 B.C.

The Roman author Pliny in 77 A.D. wrote, "Experience is the most efficient teacher of all things."  (Sounds like he copied most of it from JC.)

What I think they really mean is most people learn more by doing than by reading or listening.

Would you agree with that?

If experience is the best teacher, then why did I spend all those years in school? Was it to gain knowledge or gain experience? Shouldn't I just have gone out and gathered lots and lots of experience?

If experience is the best teacher then why aren't those with the most life experiences the most successful?

Will Rogers

Will Rogers once said, "The trouble with using experience as your guide is that sometimes the final exam comes first, then the lesson."

Og Mandino wrote, "In truth, experience teaches thoroughly yet her course of instruction devours men's years so the value of her lessons diminishes with the time necessary to acquire her special wisdom. The end finds it wasted on dead men. Furthermore, experience is comparable to fashion; an action that proved successful today will be unworkable and impractical tomorrow."

Do you agree with those statements?

So which is it then?  Let's look at axiology first and then we'll take a peek at how neuroscience and the brain work to answer the question "Is Experience the Best Teacher?".

v The Value of Experience

Knowledge (thinking) lays the foundation for experience, yet axiologically knowledge is infinitely less valuable than experience. You see, knowledge is systemic. By definition, it only exists in your mind. Experience is extrinsic... you can measure it and you can see it. Something that is tangible is infinitely more valuable than something that only exists in your head.

So, experience is infinitely more valuable than knowledge.  But is it the best teacher?

Because you have measured it, seen it, and experienced it, does that mean that you have learned from it? Of course not!

It is implied in the saying "Experience is the best teacher" that if you experience a lot, you will learn a lot. Now I'm not going to tell you that experience isn't a good teacher but it is only a good teacher if it brings about change.

A rich and wise man once told me, "to know and not do is not to know". Sure I was confused at first, but then I realized what it meant. For example, to say you KNOW you should exercise more and not DO it, is exactly the same as not knowing you should do it. Why? Because the knowledge changes nothing.

Quoting Og Mandino again, "My dreams are worthless, my plans are dust, my goals are impossible. All are of no value unless they are followed by action. I will act now. Never has there been a map however carefully executed to detail and scale which carried its owner over even one inch of ground. Never has there been a parchment of law however fair which prevented one crime. ... Action, alone, is the tinder which ignites the map, the parchment, this scroll, my dreams, my plans, my goals, into a living force. Action is the food and drink which will nourish my success."

Many folks that I talk with believe that their experience is important. They will say "I have 15 years of project management experience." Truthfully that tells me that they have been in the profession for 15 years but it tells me very little about their knowledge and abilities managing projects. You see, some have had the same one year of experience fifteen times over.

You may assume that because you have experience you also have learned from that experience. But, you have to DO in order to truly learn and grow (change) from your experiences. What have you DONE with your experiences?

v Changing through Experience

It's been said that Benjamin Franklin was a master at learning from his experience. He was number 15 of the 17 children in his family and the youngest son of his father, Josiah Franklin. Josiah wanted Ben to attend school with the clergy but only had enough money to send him for two (2) years and his schooling ended when he was 10 years old. How did he accomplish so much throughout his lifetime? How did he take advantage of all of his experiences?

Good questions, but first, let's look at you...

  • What experiences have you had? in the last year? last week? last 24 hours?

  • Did you learn from these experiences?  Can you remember them?

  • What are the common traits of the experiences that you learn from?

  • Have these experiences been viewed as successes or failures?

  • What can you do to better learn from your experiences?

To answer that last question, let's go back to Ben for some of his methods which line up quite nicely with what we now know from neuroscience.

Daily self-reflection was a fundamental aspect of Franklin’s life. He developed a list of thirteen virtues and each day he would evaluate his conduct relative to a particular virtue.

Changing through experience isn't simply brought about through the experience. Ben Franklin kept a diary of his daily events. He also believed in the virtue of ORDER and he created a scheme for his daily life. Read through his plan below...

He started every morning by asking "What good shall I do today?"

He reflected ("looked over his accounts") during his lunch hour.

He ended every day in reflection by asking "What good have I done today?"

Neuroscientifically, these techniques positively reinforced his good behaviors. He developed a habit of creating good habits!! In order to change thinking and valuing habits and learn from your experiences, you must A.C.T.!! You must give ATTENTION to the experience. You must CONCENTRATE on what you would like to learn and you must do this over TIME.

v Your Next Steps

What should you do to make your experience count?

Here are 4 steps on getting value and producing positive changes in your life from your experiences...

  1. Record - Spend time each day jotting down the things that you did, the experiences that you had. Did your mind just tell you that you don't have time for this? Then, you'll want to check out this FREE online tool called Evernote.
    (EVERNOTE allows you to easily capture information in any environment using whatever device or platform you find most convenient, and makes this information accessible and searchable at any time, from anywhere. Did I mention that it's free?!?)

  2. Reflect - Once you've collected your thoughts and experiences ask yourself the question "What good have I done today?" Look for value in each of the three classes of value.

    • Did you come up with some great ideas (systemic) today? 

    • Did you do great deeds (extrinsic)? Were you productive in reaching your goals?

    • Did you value another human being today? Did you make a positive eternal difference?

  3. Replay - For many, your systemic thoughts cause problems. You have developed thought habits over the years that tell you that your ideas are the best and that your expectations are completely reasonable and realistic. However, for most, that usually isn't the case.  (Do you still believe that you can drive in rush hour traffic and not be cut off?) Use the creative and imaginative powers of your systemic mind to imagine yourself performing the best steps and actions. Replay the events of the day in your creative mind.

  4. Rehearse - Mentally rehearse the good things that you did and pre-hearse the good things that you will do or change for tomorrow. Practice, practice, practice. Then, go back to step one again tomorrow and ask yourself "What good shall I do today?".

I must warn you... sincere self-examination of our experiences is not an easy task. It requires attention. It requires a willingness to face your experiences - the successes and failures. It requires you to concentrate on your actions. It requires you to recognize what you may have neglected in thoughtlessness. It leaves little room for blaming others and complaining about the events of the day. This exercise focuses you on the only person you can truly change in this world... YOU!

But, I must also tell you...IT IS WELL, WELL WORTH IT. (You may even get schools, roads, bridges, and companies named after you some day like Ben did.)

Remember, it takes all 4 of these steps to bring about real, lasting changes. To change you must A.C.T. Focus on your natural thinking and valuing strengths.  You are worth the effort! Those around you are worth the effort.

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March, 2009
Vol. 3, Issue 7

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Speaking of Experience


"Learning from experience is a faculty almost never practiced."

- Barbara Tuchman

"Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so."

- Douglas Adams

"Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes."

- Oscar Wilde

"The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson."

- Tom Bodett

"Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.";

- Unknown

"Experience tells you what to do; confidence allows you to do it."

 - Stan Smith

"One of the most important lessons that experience teaches is that, on the whole, success depends more upon character than upon either intellect or fortune."

 - William Edward Hartpole Lecky

"Knowledge and experience change nothing. Only knowledge and experience that inspire action will bring about change."

- Traci Duez

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